Balanced Mind,  Health

Can’t we all just be… “Happy”?

Happiness…well, what exactly is it? What does it mean? To you, maybe it means no more problems. To another, it may mean no more bills or taxes. For another, it may be a new addition to the family or winning the lottery. Then we can all be happy, right? The truth is that happiness can mean many different things to different people. Still, unfortunately, society has led us to believe that happiness is tied to success, large bank accounts, or big accomplishments. That happiness is something we should always be striving towards.

But ask yourself what it actually means to you. Can you come up with an answer? Or maybe you don’t even know. Perhaps it seems like a mystery to you. Some even believe that we should be happy all the time. But how is this possible in a world full of unhappiness and misfortune? Why can so many people never seem to get there….to their happy place? Is it because they never make their mark on the world? Because they never make a million dollars or run for president?

Or, could it be that the path to being happy starts with a change in what you think about happiness? The fact is that you can begin pursuing habits that lead to happiness right now. You can empower yourself to find and enjoy happiness wherever you are by focusing on your strengths instead of your weaknesses and by building the good in your life instead of repairing the bad.

By Limiting beliefs and self-sabotaging behaviors that may be standing in the way of your happiness and finding the importance of gratitude and self-love in your daily activities and relationships, you can find true happiness. Changing your thoughts and actions can lead to unexpected and life-changing experiences because the nature of our thoughts determines the quality of our life, whether it is sad, happy, or contented. Now you may ask, well, what does this all mean, and what should I do to accomplish this goal? Well, the good thing about our brain is that it is very receptive to changes that we bring about in our thinking patterns. For example, if I say that I will never get from A to B, that is a negative affirmation that my mind has made. If I think that repeatedly, my actions will move in that direction, I will never achieve my goals.

The truth is that most people are given to making negative affirmations. But what if you were to think, repeatedly, that you CAN do something and you WILL do something? Then your actions will change and move in the direction of your goals, and you will accomplish your set goal and feel happy about it. 

Change your thoughts, and you change your world.” ~ Norman Vincent Peale

The next example is to let go of past mistakes. Stop mulling over what could or should have been and instead think about what you have learned from your past and then decide about your future. If something terrible has happened to you, then stop and ask yourself what you have learned, then let it go and move on, using that learned information to make new decisions about your future. See the lousy episode as only one moment in the time of your life and see that one moment does not define you or who you are.

Next, be grateful for what you have. “Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” ~ Melody Beattie. There is nothing wrong with always working towards higher benchmarks or goals, but failure to reach them should not spoil your enjoyment of what you already have.

These are just a few ways to move towards a happier place in your life. If you are interested in learning more, follow the Balanced Mind section of our blog.